Singing for the Big O

A friend of mine sent me an interesting article by Suzie Heumann: What Do Singing, Throats And The Vagus Nerve Have To Do With Orgasm Suzie Huemann is the founder of Tantra.com, and draws the line between the vagus nerve and more powerful orgasms.

The Vagus nerve is a fascinating nerve that is responsible for many aspects of our bodies functioning, many studies have been done regarding this nerve, which is one of the longest nerves we have in our bodies, it is responsible for regulating our heartbeat, and sending and receiving many signals to and from our brains.

Suzie Huemann suggests though, that this nerve, and its control over areas of the abdomen and diaphragm may be related to stronger orgasms. Through hitting some of those lower diaphragm engaging notes you can increase your enjoyment and the intensity of your orgasms.

So open up your throat, and activate that vagus nerve with a throaty rendition of "Let's Get it on" or maybe just some good old fashioned moaning to increase your pleasure. Couldn't hurt to give it a try. ;-)

National Anal Sex Month!!

Wow, So I just found out that August is National Anal Sex Month! It's TRUE! I promise I wouldn't make this stuff up! I have spent a few hours trying to figure out how and when August became the Official Month for backdoor loving, but I have not found a solid resource on that..... But hey, it's a great excuse to write a blog about the possibilities for anal pleasure.

Now for all you straight guys that are rubbing your hands together excitedly, this anal sex thing goes both ways, each gender has an anus, and unlike us ladies, you even have a g-spot in there, or "he-spot" as some like to call it. The prostate gland is considered the male g-spot, and stimulation of this area can result in earth shattering orgasms. You may have to open your mind (thinking of the puns I could have inserted here... I will resist) if the anus is something you have always considered an exit only. I must assure you men, that the reports are glowing, and this is an experiment worth trying. The Male G-Spot Massager is an excellent product for exploring the joys of the prostate gland, it has a curved shaft to target just the right areas, and a removable roller ball attachment for perineal massage.

For a lot of people anal sex can seem very intimidating, and gets a bad reputation for not being very romantic, but this can be a very pleasurable and intimate area to enjoy as a couple. It is very important to remember when you do engage in anal sex to use lot's and lot's of lubrication, and lot's of communication. Communicate to your partner what does and does not feel good. You would want to start out slowly, start with a finger, or a slim toy. Again, use lot's of lubrication, the anus is not a self lubricating orifice, and when I say lubrication I don't mean saliva, it's best to use a specially formulated sexual lubricant. Such as one of the many lubricants, found on my website.

Some people report that they prefer to engage in anal sex after a nice cleansing shower, others will say that it is important to use the restroom before engaging in anal penetration. Others will use enemas to cleanse the area, but it is important to note, that, frequent use of enemas is not a good health practice.... this is not necessary either though some do use it as a preparatory method.

Another important tip is to remember to be careful of cross contamination with the vagina, be sure to use a condom, latex glove, or finger cot to prevent e. coli bacteria from coming in contact with the vaginal and urethral area. Additionally it is important to note that only toys made of metal or glass, can be completely sterilized and therefore rubber, jelly and silicone toys should either be designated for anal use only (for one person i.e. not used on anyone else), or you can cover your anal toys with a condom to protect them from bacteria they may come in contact with during anal use.

Some people like to use an anal numbing cream to ease the natural tendency to tighten the sphincter. There are a myriad of toys that can increase the pleasure of anal sex. Anal beads rapidly removed right at the moment of orgasm can result in explosive pleasure, they come in all different shapes and sizes, butt plugs can also be fun, and playful anal toy. It's important to try many things, to see which is the most enjoyable for you.

Anal sex can be very pleasurable for both partners, and in both genders, so if you are feeling adventurous give it a try sometime. If it's old hat for you then keep on, keeping on.

I HAVE to pee!

So, I know it's not your favorite thing to do..... You're laying there basking in the beauty of that sexual afterglow, and then you remember that you are supposed to jump up and run to the bathroom for a pee. But why?

Well using the restroom before the act of sex is a good idea, but emptying your bladder after sex is very important to aid in the prevention of urinary tract infections, or UTI as it is commonly referred to, especially for women. A woman's anatomy has the unfortunate flaw of having a major bacteria source very near the urinary tract. Bacteria from the rectal area can be moved up towards, and into the urethral opening very easily. Additionally the Human mouth is typically not very clean, so it is quite possible to get a bacterial bath from the joys of oral sex, the longer the session the more likely that bacteria could be transferred. *sighs* What a shame.

During marathon sex, very vigorous sex, or in certain positions such as on the knees, or any positions from behind can increase the instance of E. Coli bacteria from the rectal area being transported up to the urethral opening. These types of positions can also irritate the bladder and urinary tract due to increased pressure on that area.

When you urinate before sex it clears out any residual bacteria that may be there already, and urinating after sex can help keep the bacteria from settling, and clean out the urinary tract, this aids in decreasing the instance of the awful UTI, that is the bane of so many women's existence.

I will talk more about UTI's in a future blog, but just wanted to let everyone know the importance of urination after sex. Whether you like it or not ladies, excuse yourself for that necessary emptying of the bladder after every session of sexual intercourse.

As a quick side note, and warning: urination after sex does not prevent pregnancy!!!


*some of the information used for this post was found at: http://www.barnard.edu/wwoman/qanda/gynhealth/urinate.html

Finding The Elusive G-Spot: A Journey to Ectasy!

The G-Spot is a mass of highly-charged nerve endings that is nestled up against the bladder and urethra. It is the same tissue mass that becomes the prostate in men.
When looking for the G-spot, the easiest way to identify it is to look for a spot that makes you feel like you need to urinate. This spot is going to be about 2 1/2-3 inches inside the vagina, against the anterior wall, this means it's going to be up behind the belly-button. As I mentioned, it is nestled up against the bladder, so when pressure is put on it, it puts pressure on the bladder which is why it makes you feel like you need to urinate. So empty your bladder first, and when you feel the need to urinate, you will know that it is the G-spot!

There are two primary techniques to find the G-Spot, the "Windshield Wiper" and the "Come Hither". On average, the first G-spot orgasm takes about 30 minutes of constant stimulation. Because of this, the easiest way to find the G-spot is to find it yourself with a toy because a toy will not lose all sensation in its fingers and have to switch hands half-way there. A great way to involve your partner is to have him use the toy while you help guide him to the right spot.

The G-spot and our entire sexual anatomy needs regular training in order to perform at its best. If you took me out tomorrow and asked me to run a marathon, I would be that sad girl sitting on the side of the road crying. Give me 6 months to train though, and I could finish that marathon. Might not be pretty, but I would finish! Orgasms are no different. Regular training makes a huge difference in how consistent and how intense orgasms are. And I don't know about you, but I would WAY rather train for incredible orgasms than for a marathon!

Directions to the G-Spot here!!

I talk about how my Passion Parties Presentation is educational.... some people snicker...

Honestly though, it is shocking to me, how little many women seem to actually know about their bodies!

I spent the better half of an hour explaining the difference between the clitoris and the G-spot today, to my sister, who is 13 yrs older than I am. I couldn't believe she didn't know! Plus, she was unaware of where exactly the G-spot is located, she knew it was somewhere in the vagina....

Okay, but it's late..... so, I'm too tired tonight to give everyone else directions to it! But!!! Watch out, Very soon, I will be giving directions for all of those that are lost on the vaginal canal highway!!
TO the G-SPOT and BEYOND, people!!

Til tomorrow, sweet dreams!

Zzzzzzzzz

Does Celery Make You Feel Sexy?

Celery, pumpkin seeds, bananas, almonds and avocados.......What do all these foods have in common?

Well, Rumor has it they are foods that boost your libido! Maca and celery rank as the top two sex inducing foods, but I was surprised by some of the others....Saurkraut!!! I had no idea! I thought cured cabbage was only responsible for causing gas! Asparagus is on the list too, high in Vitamin E "The sex Vitamin" it is rumored to have the strongest effect if eaten 3 days in a row, according to the Vegetarian Society.

Talk about Stinky pee!

Check out Energise Blog: Natural Health & Alkaline Diet to get all the details!

Whack it for your Health!

Well, I am happy to report to all you guys out there, research shows that masturbation can lower your chances of prostate cancer! Hurray! According to research findings, men who ejaculate more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer later in life.

Australian Researchers have found that ejaculation causes a clearing out of the fluids, by removing and flushing out substances including potassium, zinc, fructose and citric acid, which are drawn from the bloodstream. Australian Researcher, Dr Giles, said fewer ejaculations may mean the carcinogens build up.

"It's a prostatic stagnation hypothesis. The more you flush the ducts out, the less there is to hang around and damage the cells that line them."

Being a man-whore isn't the answer though, because researchers feel that sexual intercourse alone does not have the same protective effects due to the possibility of contracting sexually transmitted disease, which increases the overall cancer risk.

So, keep it at home my man, and give that rod a-stroking, because apparently that's the best way to help gain the beneficial effects of the semen flush out!

Check out my site's, products for him for a little something extra to enhance masturbation enjoyment. I have a handful of products that make masturbation feel a little less solitary, and a lot more enjoyable! Try out our top selling masturbation sleeve, Gigi, it is extremely stretchy to pleasure men of all sizes. Modeled after a real vagina, Gigi is lined with ribbing for extra pleasure and completely reversible for cleaning. Use RomantaTherapy™ Sensual Warming Lubricant for a realistic experience. If Gigi, isn't something you can get your head into (pun intended!), please remember to at least use a lubricant that is specifically formulated for sexual pleasure. You won't be sorry! Stay tuned for more details and tips on Masturbation.... And remember, it may be saving your life!

Sexercise!!

That's right! And I'm not talking about the exercise you get while you are having intercourse, that will be the topic for another blog!

No, I am talking about toning and tightening your pelvic floor muscles, the PC, or pubococcygeus muscles, if you wanna get technical. This set of wonderful muscles, when excercised on a regular basis, can assist you with achieving a quicker, more intense climax and benefit your partner by being able to tighten harder around his penis.

Maybe, if you've had a baby, you may have heard of these exercises before, they are often taught to expectant mothers as a way to help tone the muscles in preparation for giving birth. Additionally these exercises help after the birth of the baby to tighten stretched muscles, and help with incontinence and other health issues later in life.
Fantastic! But, as I mentioned above.....

IT MAKES YOUR ORGASMS BETTER!! HELLO!

I mean, not peeing on yourself later in life is great and all, but I vote for better orgasms now as my main motivating factor to doing these exercises, and you don't even have to break a sweat! Now that's my kind of workout!

Some of the benefits of exercising the PC muscles are:

• Makes it easier for you to reach orgasm
• Makes your orgasms stronger/better
• Tightens the vaginal muscles which enhances your and your partner’s feeling
• Promotes sexual self-confidence
• Assists with the ability to have multiple orgasms (Yes! Please!)
• Increases blood flow to the vagina
• Medically beneficial in preventing certain ailments and sexual difficulties
• Makes vaginal childbirth and recovery easier
• Strengthens the muscles involved with bladder control
• Can be done discreetly anywhere, anytime (I'm doing them now, you could never tell!)

Often these exercises are called Kegels because Dr. Arnold Kegel, who recognized the health benefits of this exercise, came up with the four most common exercises, which include stengthening all the groups of muscles that are involved, they are:

Contract and Hold
Squeeze this muscle group and hold it for a count of ten. Then contract and hold for another count of ten. Continue doing this.

Flutter
Contract the muscle group as quickly as you can. These won’t be large squeezes, just rapid light ones. Stop, take a rest – and then do it again.

The Elevator
Imagine that there’s a little elevator in your pelvic region and that you want to raise it up floor-by-floor to the top floor. So, start at the ground floor and go up to the first floor, then up the second floor, and last, to the third floor. Then gradually allow the "elevator" to go back down stopping at each floor. Once you get to the ground floor, completely relax the muscles you’ve just exercised.

The Workout
For even better and quicker results, having something to squeeze will make Kegel exercises easier to do and feel more natural. Using weighted balls such as Ben Wa, Pleasure Pods or Sports Balls, insert only one ball or side at first. Squeeze and release for two minutes. When you start to notice greater muscle strength, add the second ball or side.

BUT! Wait! How does one find theses muscles?

Well, I'm glad you asked, it's as easy as pie.... or peeing that is. *giggles*
Simply start and stop your stream of urine several times while urinating and you’ve found your PC muscles. The PC muscle is a hammock-like muscle that stretches from the pubic bone to the tailbone (coccyx) and forms the pelvic floor. When doing Kegels, try to only use these muscles. At first you may contract your chest, abdominal, back and anal muscles, too, but with practice you’ll be able to focus solely on the PCs.

Good luck with trying out your new workout plan! If you decide you need any excercise gear, let me know! I have some special items that can help you follow Dr. Kegels, Workout: The old tried and true, Ben-Wa balls, a new twist on an old favorite, the slightly larger, an silkier version, The Pleasure Pearls, and last but, most certainly not least, are the easy to use and locate, Pleasure Pods, which look almost like a little mini dumbell. All of which are available for sale through my website:

http://www.passionatemermaid.com

Also feel free to email me if you have any (real... vs. let's talk dirty to the sexpert) questions about kegels, or these products.

some information and excerpts taken from:
Kegel Exercises: Strengthening Your Pelvic Floor Muscles
Sexual Well-Being By Passion Parties
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